TestWhat’s your favorite meal? What was your favorite way to play outside as a kid? What does your favorite memory smell like?

These are questions that are part of the culture in my house. When my kids were growing up, I asked about their favorite moment of the day, their favorite interaction with a friend, or their favorite moment to be away from me (this question was born during the teenage years).

I ask about favorites because it’s so easy to complain, to focus on the negative, or to harbor resentments and focus on injustice. I knew I was going to be that small voice in the back of my kids’ mind for decades to come. I wanted that voice to be about seeing the good stuff.

Today, I give you 52 ways to ask, “What’s your favorite?”